Returning to The Stillhouse
My blogs on this platform, Write.As, have always been more personal in nature. I have subject-focused blogs, articles, and books elsewhere—but I’ve always needed a space that felt more like me. This is it.
As I’ve evolved, so has my writing. I started by talking about energy healing and tarot. That grew into deeper explorations of spiritual self-mastery, philosophy, and now, self-responsibility and societal reform.
Spirituality still runs underneath it all. Spiritual and philosophical principles shape how I see the world and how I choose to show up in it. Writing has helped me embody those principles—and eventually, shape a vision for a society rooted in the same ideals.
If I had to name one core principle at the heart of that vision, it would be this: Self-responsibility.
The ability to turn the mirror on ourselves and reflect on the role we play in every experience. The goal isn’t self-blame. It’s not about shame, guilt, or rehearsing stories of victimhood.
It’s about becoming aware of the pain we put out into the world, of how our words and actions affect others, and of the pain that may be hiding behind those choices.
Self-responsibility is the next step up from self-mastery. Self-mastery teaches us to manage ourselves within the experience, without needing to change, control, or manipulate the experience itself.
Self-responsibility takes it further by asking: What was my role in creating this?
When we make a crappy choice, our job isn’t to wallow in guilt. Our job is to get curious—figure out why we did it, and then change it in the future.
When we can do that without falling into blame, shame, or regret, we get a much clearer picture of how pain drives our behaviour.
It’s not your fault I feel this way.
That’s self-responsibility in a nutshell.
When we embody both self-mastery and self-responsibility, we stop being so rattled by life. It’s not that we don’t care. It’s not that nobody can hurt us. It’s not that we’re guarded.
It’s that we have a full set of tools to meet whatever comes.
This evolution in my work brought me to an important shift: I stopped caring about social media.
Not because my work wasn’t worth seeing—but because the act of sharing it felt like a competition I never wanted to enter. I felt obligated to share. I thought, I’m supposed to. We all know how “supposed to” tends to go.
So while I’ll maintain a personal presence online—and maybe announce a book here and there—I’m no longer participating in social media.
I’m here instead. Writing for me. Writing for whoever finds it. Writing, because that’s who I am and what I do.
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You’re also welcome to visit The Stillhouse—a quiet space without noise, ads, or distractions. Just reflection, philosophy, spirituality, and truth. Where this blog is personal, The Stillhouse is subject-focused.
If you’ve done the hard work, and you’re looking for something real, you’ll find it there.
The Stillhouse is part of a larger vision—one I have for building a community of quiet thinkers and truth-seekers. I imagine it like a log cabin in the woods, filled with tarot cards, books, and soft, comfortable places to sit, reflect, and breathe.
But it’s more than a place.
The Stillhouse lives in each of us. It’s the quiet center—the place inside that remains undisturbed. It’s still, present, and always available… whenever we choose to go there.
Love to all.
Della